LOVE

It's not for the weak.

It's not for the unforgiving.

It's only for those who wish to keep loving and keep forgiving even when their companion does not deserve it.  It's for those who want to participate in the cycle of unconditional love.  It's for those who understand that they too will show themselves unworthy by their actions at one time or another and yet, they want to be loved.  Love is reciprocally unconditional and is only for the strong.  The strong take risks on those who are worth it regardless of the risks they took on those who were a liability instead of an asset.


Women aren't hard to figure out. Plainly speaking, we just want it all because we understand that it's not just possible, it's attainable, and you both are worth it.  What most men refuse to accept is the challenge to live up to the faith that their woman has in them for greater, better, and more WITH YOU! WANT HER TO BE SATISFIED? I mean FINALLY HAPPY with something you've given? Then ask yourself: "When's the last time you dreamed bigger than she has for the both of you....And went after it?" ‪#‎HerFaithHasPushedYouThisFar‬ ‪#‎KEEPGOING‬ ‪#‎RelationshipGoals‬ ‪#‎ThisLoveIsForREAL‬

Women aren't hard to figure out.
Plainly speaking, we just want it all because we understand that it's not just possible, it's attainable, and you both are worth it. 
What most men refuse to accept is the challenge to live up to the faith that their woman has in them for greater, better, and more WITH YOU!

WANT HER TO BE SATISFIED?
I mean FINALLY HAPPY with something you've given?
Then ask yourself:

"When's the last time you dreamed bigger than she has for the both of you....And went after it?"

‪#‎HerFaithHasPushedYouThisFar‬
‪#‎KEEPGOING‬
‪#‎RelationshipGoals‬
‪#‎ThisLoveIsForREAL‬


By now, you know what I'm going to say about that man or woman that you just love so much and have to have. I've posted many times about what you should look for in "the right one". Attn Women: If he will not leave, put aside, do away with habits that don't protect and/or destroys the bond you have with him, then he is not "the one". I'm not referring to a man who is learning to be YOUR good man rather I'm referring to a man who is completely defiant regarding your standards. If you don't have any standards, then perhaps he is the right man but you're the wrong woman for right now. Either way, what you allow or accept is what will be given.  Weigh it out. Look over this year alone and see how many times has he done the same thing. AND DON'T BE FOOLED by him having changed his actions because the theme is still valid.  If he stopped staying out til the morning but stays downstairs on the phone or social media with other women then he hasn't changed. He switched his actions but the theme of infidelity remains the same with him and therefore he is still the man that is no good for you. If you allow it, then you're not ready for any man at this moment. Take time to evaluate why you allow what you allow and when you get to the root of the issue, deal with that and then open to receiving the love you deserve. Attn Men: If she will not respect you, nurture you and your house, nor consider you in her actions before she does them, then she is not "the one". Again, I'm not referring to a woman learning on the job. I was a woman who learned on the job and am still learning while applying what I know to my relationship. If you have a woman that's trying, then she's a keeper. I'm referring to a woman who insists on talking down to you, the one that enjoys reducing you to shreds (especially in front of others), the woman who never hears you nor listens to you and if she does then she does the opposite. The woman who makes her son not want a woman like her and never want to be a man like you and keeps her daughters unwed because she taught them the wrong way by her actions….That's the woman I'm referring to as the wrong one. How many times in this year alone has she intentionally embarrassed you? How many times has she let the kids (biological or not) disrespect you. How many times has she made sure you knew she wasn't sorry and will continue to do what she's doing? How much longer will you take it? The same rules that apply to a woman identifying if her man is the right one are the same rules that apply to a man identifying if his woman is the right one. What you allow or accept is what will be given. If you prefer to rely on the notion that "it's cheaper to keep her" then you too aren't ready for a woman at this moment anyhow. Take time to see why you refuse to let her go and when you get to the root of the issue, deal within yourself and again, then open to receive the love you deserve. BUT WHAT IF YOU'RE MARRIED? Then honey-baby-sugar-pop, you both will have to discuss working out these issues while you're together. Address how you feel (but do not place any blame on them….if you say, "you did this" then that leaves room for their defenses to kick in instead of a possible door opening up for a good talk), as I was saying, address how you feel in a letter, a text, an email, a phone call even, if you can't do a face to face confrontation. Seek a good marriage counselor OR agree to help each other HELP EACH OTHER. It's possible that they won't receive you or even see themselves in need of changing.  IT DOESN'T MATTER.  It takes two to argue.  It takes two to stay in a dysfunctional relationship and if you aren't the one to change then everything will remain the same.  The change is for you! So if you have to go at it alone, then do so because you can't stay the way you are. It's too costly…your children and anyone else who you are leading are watching how you handle yourself and they are taking notes AND are following suit.  Would you want your son or daughter with a husband or wife like you? Would you want your son or daughter with a husband or wife like your spouse? Would you want your children to resent you because you stayed or because you didn't stick up for yourself? On the flip side, there's always the chance that your spouse will simply vacate and truth be told, you'll get through it quicker once you realize that they left a long time ago or possibly were never really there. Should you have the opportunity to remarry, then you want better than what you had. Only thing is you can't get better than what you had if you don't become better than who you used to be. Just think, if you change for the better while they remain the same, then you two will not match anymore than you do now.  If they care to stay with you, they will seek change for themselves and for the marriage.  If they don't care to stay with you then they will leave you…..and the new you person will hurt but will have peace that the doors are finally open for someone who deserves you to come along. So…with all that being said…should you take them with you into 2015? SHOULD YOU TAKE YOU WITH YOU INTO 2015? #SelfReflection #ShouldIStay #MaybeIDeserve #ChangeIsGood #ChangeIsNecessary #ChangingForTheBetter #OutWithTheOld #InWithTheNew #KeepTheFaith #BiggerPicture #MotivationalSpeaker #InspirationalSpeaker #RelationshipSpeaker #EmotionalHealthSpeaker #Author #Lifecoach #ZeeSpeaksPURPOSE #ZeeSpeaksFOCUS #ZeeSpeaks  

By now, you know what I'm going to say about that man or woman that you just love so much and have to have.
I've posted many times about what you should look for in "the right one".
Attn Women:
If he will not leave, put aside, do away with habits that don't protect and/or destroys the bond you have with him, then he is not "the one".
I'm not referring to a man who is learning to be YOUR good man rather I'm referring to a man who is completely defiant regarding your standards.
If you don't have any standards, then perhaps he is the right man but you're the wrong woman for right now.
Either way, what you allow or accept is what will be given. 
Weigh it out. Look over this year alone and see how many times has he done the same thing. AND DON'T BE FOOLED by him having changed his actions because the theme is still valid. 
If he stopped staying out til the morning but stays downstairs on the phone or social media with other women then he hasn't changed. He switched his actions but the theme of infidelity remains the same with him and therefore he is still the man that is no good for you.
If you allow it, then you're not ready for any man at this moment. Take time to evaluate why you allow what you allow and when you get to the root of the issue, deal with that and then open to receiving the love you deserve.
Attn Men:
If she will not respect you, nurture you and your house, nor consider you in her actions before she does them, then she is not "the one".
Again, I'm not referring to a woman learning on the job. I was a woman who learned on the job and am still learning while applying what I know to my relationship. If you have a woman that's trying, then she's a keeper.
I'm referring to a woman who insists on talking down to you, the one that enjoys reducing you to shreds (especially in front of others), the woman who never hears you nor listens to you and if she does then she does the opposite. The woman who makes her son not want a woman like her and never want to be a man like you and keeps her daughters unwed because she taught them the wrong way by her actions….That's the woman I'm referring to as the wrong one.
How many times in this year alone has she intentionally embarrassed you?
How many times has she let the kids (biological or not) disrespect you.
How many times has she made sure you knew she wasn't sorry and will continue to do what she's doing?
How much longer will you take it?
The same rules that apply to a woman identifying if her man is the right one are the same rules that apply to a man identifying if his woman is the right one.
What you allow or accept is what will be given. If you prefer to rely on the notion that "it's cheaper to keep her" then you too aren't ready for a woman at this moment anyhow. Take time to see why you refuse to let her go and when you get to the root of the issue, deal within yourself and again, then open to receive the love you deserve.
BUT WHAT IF YOU'RE MARRIED?
Then honey-baby-sugar-pop, you both will have to discuss working out these issues while you're together. Address how you feel (but do not place any blame on them….if you say, "you did this" then that leaves room for their defenses to kick in instead of a possible door opening up for a good talk), as I was saying, address how you feel in a letter, a text, an email, a phone call even, if you can't do a face to face confrontation. Seek a good marriage counselor OR agree to help each other HELP EACH OTHER. It's possible that they won't receive you or even see themselves in need of changing. 
IT DOESN'T MATTER. 
It takes two to argue. 
It takes two to stay in a dysfunctional relationship and if you aren't the one to change then everything will remain the same. 
The change is for you! So if you have to go at it alone, then do so because you can't stay the way you are. It's too costly…your children and anyone else who you are leading are watching how you handle yourself and they are taking notes AND are following suit. 
Would you want your son or daughter with a husband or wife like you?
Would you want your son or daughter with a husband or wife like your spouse?
Would you want your children to resent you because you stayed or because you didn't stick up for yourself?
On the flip side, there's always the chance that your spouse will simply vacate and truth be told, you'll get through it quicker once you realize that they left a long time ago or possibly were never really there.
Should you have the opportunity to remarry, then you want better than what you had. Only thing is you can't get better than what you had if you don't become better than who you used to be. Just think, if you change for the better while they remain the same, then you two will not match anymore than you do now. 
If they care to stay with you, they will seek change for themselves and for the marriage. 
If they don't care to stay with you then they will leave you…..and the new you person will hurt but will have peace that the doors are finally open for someone who deserves you to come along.
So…with all that being said…should you take them with you into 2015?
SHOULD YOU TAKE YOU WITH YOU INTO 2015?
#SelfReflection
#ShouldIStay
#MaybeIDeserve
#ChangeIsGood
#ChangeIsNecessary
#ChangingForTheBetter
#OutWithTheOld
#InWithTheNew
#KeepTheFaith
#BiggerPicture
#MotivationalSpeaker
#InspirationalSpeaker
#RelationshipSpeaker
#EmotionalHealthSpeaker
#Author
#Lifecoach
#ZeeSpeaksPURPOSE
#ZeeSpeaksFOCUS
#ZeeSpeaks

 


There are many reasons why you shouldn't love him or why you shouldn't love her, There's always a feeling of uneasiness when going ino the unknown (the new). It's intimidating because you have to move past your insecurities of falling flat on your face and nonetheless in front of people. You have to show your vulnerabilities, weaknesses, and learning processes which may be faster or slower than others. Overall, new things can be downright uncomfortable because you just don't know what's going to happen. You wonder if you fail, then what? I'm here to tell you that you can't fail, IF you learn from what worked and what didn't. But the question you need to ask yourself, after driving yourself crazy with all of the above is, is he or she worth the risk?  If you come out brokenhearted, will you be satisfied in at least knowing that it would never work? The risk is based on your desire to know for sure as well as their or it's worthiness to be discovered. If it never works out with him/her then at least you know it couldn't and by the time the "one" comes along, you can easily identify him/her because you know what you DON'T want.  Do you want to learn that lesson with him or her regardless of the outcome? OR if it does work out then he or she will be the one to show you what you didn't even know you wanted and give you what you didn't even know you needed. Do you want to learn this lesson with him or her regardless of them helping you discover that you're not all you think you are? There are so many reasons why you shouldn't do something but the main reason, the reason that matters most, is you.  New experiences should always lead you to discover who you are, who you aren't, what you want, and best of all what you need and what you don't. All you have to do is decide, no matter the outcome, do you want to learn this lesson with him/her, here/there, or it.  Are they worthy of sharing the journey with you?  Are they worthy of being the "one" or the place or thing to do to help you find your way? I'm suggesting that you ask until you get an answer.  Don't make a move without knowing for sure if he/she is worth the risk. At the end of the day, if it works out the way you expected or not, you have to walk away with more than what you came with.... And the biggest gain is knowing who you are and who you aren't. The best champions know how to take a necessary hit in order to deliver a knock out! #HappyWednesday #HumpDay #WhatAreYouWaitingFor #AskYourselfAQuestion #GoodMorning #StartingOverAgain #MovingForward #MovingRightAlong #NoCheats #TheOnlyWayFromHereIsUP #MorningInspiration #MustardSeedFaith #MotivationalSpeaker #InspirationalSpeaker #RelationshipSpeaker #EmotionalHealthSpeaker #Author #Lifecoach #ZeeSpeaksNOCHEATS #ZeeSpeaks

There are many reasons why you shouldn't love him or why you shouldn't love her,
There's always a feeling of uneasiness when going ino the unknown (the new). It's intimidating because you have to move past your insecurities of falling flat on your face and nonetheless in front of people. You have to show your vulnerabilities, weaknesses, and learning processes which may be faster or slower than others.
Overall, new things can be downright uncomfortable because you just don't know what's going to happen.
You wonder if you fail, then what?
I'm here to tell you that you can't fail, IF you learn from what worked and what didn't.
But the question you need to ask yourself, after driving yourself crazy with all of the above is, is he or she worth the risk? 
If you come out brokenhearted, will you be satisfied in at least knowing that it would never work?
The risk is based on your desire to know for sure as well as their or it's worthiness to be discovered.
If it never works out with him/her then at least you know it couldn't and by the time the "one" comes along, you can easily identify him/her because you know what you DON'T want. 
Do you want to learn that lesson with him or her regardless of the outcome?
OR if it does work out then he or she will be the one to show you what you didn't even know you wanted and give you what you didn't even know you needed.
Do you want to learn this lesson with him or her regardless of them helping you discover that you're not all you think you are?
There are so many reasons why you shouldn't do something but the main reason, the reason that matters most, is you. 
New experiences should always lead you to discover who you are, who you aren't, what you want, and best of all what you need and what you don't.
All you have to do is decide, no matter the outcome, do you want to learn this lesson with him/her, here/there, or it. 
Are they worthy of sharing the journey with you? 
Are they worthy of being the "one" or the place or thing to do to help you find your way?

I'm suggesting that you ask until you get an answer
Don't make a move without knowing for sure if he/she is worth the risk.
At the end of the day, if it works out the way you expected or not, you have to walk away with more than what you came with.... And the biggest gain is knowing who you are and who you aren't.
The best champions know how to take a necessary hit in order to deliver a knock out!
#HappyWednesday #HumpDay #WhatAreYouWaitingFor #AskYourselfAQuestion
#GoodMorning
#StartingOverAgain
#MovingForward
#MovingRightAlong
#NoCheats
#TheOnlyWayFromHereIsUP
#MorningInspiration
#MustardSeedFaith
#MotivationalSpeaker
#InspirationalSpeaker
#RelationshipSpeaker
#EmotionalHealthSpeaker
#Author
#Lifecoach
#ZeeSpeaksNOCHEATS
#ZeeSpeaks



If you're going to be around "him" or "her" (lol) and your thoughts of where you're harboring unforgiveness brings you to getting stuck on WHY you're unforgiving, then act like a record player. That means that you take the needle and scratch that record that keeps playing. Hear the scratch in your head and even see it in your mind!  Then put on the record that tells the story of how many times God had to forgive you. You may not have done to anyone what your man or woman has done to you BUT you've done something... abortions, infidelity, manipulation, lying on an application, disliking/hating his/her children... maybe even his/her mother (oops! Did I say that?! ) In any case, there is something that you asked God to forgive you for and He did. There will be something else you'll need to ask God for forgiveness for in the future too.  Focus on how you've been blessed with many second chances and keep scratching that "LOOK AT WHAT HE/SHE DID TO ME" and "LOOK AT WHAT HE/SHE SAID TO ME" songs with "LOOK AT WHAT GOD DID FOR ME"! I love you and am praying for your heart and your love!  #GoodMorning #HappySaturday #ThePowerOfaFORGIVINGwife #ThePowerOfaPRAYINGwife #ForgivenessISkey

If you're going to be around "him" or "her" (lol) and your thoughts of where you're harboring unforgiveness brings you to getting stuck on WHY you're unforgiving, then act like a record player.
That means that you take the needle and scratch that record that keeps playing. Hear the scratch in your head and even see it in your mind! 
Then put on the record that tells the story of how many times God had to forgive you. You may not have done to anyone what your man or woman has done to you BUT you've done something... abortions, infidelity, manipulation, lying on an application, disliking/hating his/her children... maybe even his/her mother (oops! Did I say that?! )
In any case, there is something that you asked God to forgive you for and He did. There will be something else you'll need to ask God for forgiveness for in the future too. 
Focus on how you've been blessed with many second chances and keep scratching that "LOOK AT WHAT HE/SHE DID TO ME" and "LOOK AT WHAT HE/SHE SAID TO ME" songs with "LOOK AT WHAT GOD DID FOR ME"!
I love you and am praying for your heart and your love! 
#GoodMorning #HappySaturday #ThePowerOfaFORGIVINGwife #ThePowerOfaPRAYINGwife #ForgivenessISkey


When it's time to move forward into the next level of your life, the main thing that gets tested are relationships. Not just marriages and companionship but all types of bonds (mother-daughter, sister-brother, friends, etc). 
Sometimes the people you've disassociated with (and for good reason) will try to reconnect OR they'll even be on your mind so excessively that you'll think about "just saying hello". Just saying "hello" will open the door that you fought hard to close. Leave it alone!
Sometimes the people you are associated with need to become those who you USED to associate with (and for good reason) and it's just time to wrap things up before you get to your "land of milk and honey". If you bring them, they may turn it to "land of scum and grime" and leave you to clean it up.
Sometimes the bond you share with those you are supposed to be connected to are tested to the point that you'll seriously consider making them apart of your past.
If they are supposed to be in your life, this is not the time to cut them off (if ever there is) but it is the time to readjust so that you both can continue to nourish the bond you share. If you're used to talking with them at 7:30am every day but now there's a reason you cannot, then TELL THEM and come to an agreement to adjust the time you will spend nourishing the bond.
What happens is that when our lives are changing, we aren't able to keep the same routine. So we go on just thinking, "well he/she knows that I now have to do this or that" and in turn we assume that our loved one(s) will come to the same conclusion on their own.
Instead, the loved one(s) have arrived to the conclusion that YOU'VE changed ON THEM and that's where the problem is.

A true friend or companion won't feel threatened by the next level you have to take on in life. They're happy for you even if they can't be happy with their own situation at the moment. It's not the "what" that's making them upset, it's the "WHERE….WHERE do I fit in NOW?" that's making them upset.
It comes off as envy or jealousy or hateration and in turn, you stay away because in your mind you assume that SINCE they are no longer loyal in celebrating with you then they were never loyal to begin with.

When you arrive to this point, there's a conversation that needs to take place. Don't assume that because you told them about WHAT has changed that they know that the two of you cannot keep the same routine EVEN though the love hasn't changed. 
The conversation usually goes something like this:
A: "Hey Love, I know we're used to talking every morning at 7:30 but since the adoption went through, I'm waking up through the night to hold the baby because she's having a hard time with withdrawals from substance. I'm so tired and I can barely get up on time in the morning but I wanted to let you know."
B: "Oh no poor baby! I knew she was born with a condition but I didn't know you would have to go through that. When do you sleep?"
A: "Well my mom comes over after hubster leaves for work and I give her the baby and sleep until about 3 in the afternoon. I've been meaning to call you but I know you're already at work by that time."
B: "Oh okay, I was wondering why I didn't hear from you. I just hoped everything was okay" (when they say that, they also hoped everything was okay between the two of you)
A: "Yes everything is fine. I wanted to see if we can talk in the evening after you finish coaching softball and I still have to tell you about last week."
B: "Last week? What happened? Nevermind don't even tell me right now but yea, that's fine. I'll call you after dinner is done and the kids are in bed. Let's say about 8:30/9:00?"
A: "Yea that works…Alright my mom is here, I'm about to take it DOWN" 
B: "(she chuckles) okay then get some sleep and I'll talk to you tonight"
Now I know men don't go through ALL of that and some women don't either BUT the importance I'm portraying is simply to let those who belong in your life know where they stand when your routine has changed.
Too many times we assume that loved ones should just know and we think they're getting flaky and in turn, we "let the good ones get away".
#HAPPYFRIDAY #TGIF #FamilyOverEverything #ProtectingWhatsMine #Friendship #Relationships #TheHolidaysAreUponUs #HappyHolidays #TodayIsANewDay #ThankGodForSecondChances #MovingForward #IWILLNOTLOSE #CANTSTOPWONTSTOP #NoRegrets #HateMeNow #LoveMeLater #GoodMorning #ABetterMe #ABetterYou #ABetterUS #MyBestDaysAreStillInFrontOfMe #BiggerPicture #ICan #IWill #BecauseGodIS #MorningInspiration #MustardSeedFaith #ZeeSpeaksFAMILY #ZeeSpeaksFRIENDS #ZeeSpeaksRELATIONSHIP #ZeeSpeaks


No way am I suggesting that us women become weak. I'm encouraging us to be strong enough to allow the man to be a man. That simply means that even if you know you're strong enough to move the fridge on your own, still ask him to do it and say thank you. Even though you have your own money, still ask him to provide and say thank you.  Even though he's not the biological father, still ask him to participate and say thank you. Even though the two of you aren't together anymore, be fair and include him in the child's life and say thank you. Are we applauding them to do something they should be?  No, we encourage them in what they're doing so we don't have to do it alone. Two is always better than one. A man has the God given assignment to fulfill the needs of those he is responsible for. This is why they were given an ego and have pride. Now, there are some men who are out of order and refuse and deny their own responsibilities and loyalties to their companion and family.  This type of man does not understand the will of God for his life and is more than likely lazy, afraid of failing, and/or morally misguided. They allow their ego and pride to mislead them INSTEAD of ruling the thoughts associated with the ego and the emotions associated with pride.  Frankly, they need help and that's a job for Jesus... not a job for you so do NOT put in an application. THERE ARE NO BENEFITS THERE! But for the men who try to be there, make themselves available, and are doing everything they can to satisfy the needs and demands of his woman and his family, these are the ones that will stick with a woman who approves of them and makes them feel good about their abilities.  They like it.  It strokes the ego to go out and do EVEN more.  It makes them feel like a king who has a throne they'd like to keep furnishing... with his queen by his side of course. You are the one who will benefit by allowing him to be needed. Every time he does something or gets something, he will bring it to you for appraisal, approval, and praise and you will be first partaker and even guardian over those things.... this includes the most important things to us which are his heart, his body, and his time. Even if you're not together, he will be there if you let him know he's needed for the child(ren) beyond his usual duties. You'll find that he will pick up your call when you call.. reply when you text... Instead of avoiding a miserable woman who wants company. A wise woman BUILDS up and foolish woman TEARS down. If you need him (in wisdom and balance ladies), you'll keep him.... That's IF he's a real man. If you understand what I'm saying, then share this with a real man and a strong woman.  #imagrownwoman #imastrongman #ineedarealman #realmendorealthings #men #women #relationships #ineedyou #youneedme #love

No way am I suggesting that us women become weak. I'm encouraging us to be strong enough to allow the man to be a man. That simply means that even if you know you're strong enough to move the fridge on your own, still ask him to do it and say thank you.
Even though you have your own money, still ask him to provide and say thank you. 
Even though he's not the biological father, still ask him to participate and say thank you. Even though the two of you aren't together anymore, be fair and include him in the child's life and say thank you.
Are we applauding them to do something they should be? 
No, we encourage them in what they're doing so we don't have to do it alone. Two is always better than one.
A man has the God given assignment to fulfill the needs of those he is responsible for. This is why they were given an ego and have pride. Now, there are some men who are out of order and refuse and deny their own responsibilities and loyalties to their companion and family. 
This type of man does not understand the will of God for his life and is more than likely lazy, afraid of failing, and/or morally misguided. They allow their ego and pride to mislead them INSTEAD of ruling the thoughts associated with the ego and the emotions associated with pride. 
Frankly, they need help and that's a job for Jesus... not a job for you so do NOT put in an application. THERE ARE NO BENEFITS THERE!

But for the men who try to be there, make themselves available, and are doing everything they can to satisfy the needs and demands of his woman and his family, these are the ones that will stick with a woman who approves of them and makes them feel good about their abilities. 
They like it. 
It strokes the ego to go out and do EVEN more. 
It makes them feel like a king who has a throne they'd like to keep furnishing... with his queen by his side of course.
You are the one who will benefit by allowing him to be needed. Every time he does something or gets something, he will bring it to you for appraisal, approval, and praise and you will be first partaker and even guardian over those things.... this includes the most important things to us which are his heart, his body, and his time.
Even if you're not together, he will be there if you let him know he's needed for the child(ren) beyond his usual duties. You'll find that he will pick up your call when you call.. reply when you text... Instead of avoiding a miserable woman who wants company.
A wise woman BUILDS up and foolish woman TEARS down.
If you need him (in wisdom and balance ladies), you'll keep him.... That's IF he's a real man.
If you understand what I'm saying, then share this with a real man and a strong woman.  
#imagrownwoman #imastrongman #ineedarealman #realmendorealthings #men #women #relationships #ineedyou #youneedme #love


The way you know you've made the right decision is because your heart and mind are on the same page about your choice but most times, the heart and mind are always in a tug of war.
Regardless of who wins, the loser is going to hurt which causes you to feel discontentment over the choice you've made.
Let's take a look at how the heart and mind interact in a tug of war:
"I love him but the smart thing to do is leave. It's going to hurt me to leave him...but to stay would be crazy".
"I have been in the same job that I don't like for almost 20 years. I don't want another job. I prefer to be my own boss making homemade ceramics but if I follow my heart, how will the bills get paid".
"I really REALLY want to buy this brand new car but my loved one needs this money really bad. I already have a car and it runs just fine but I deserve to do something for myself".
"I do want to keep this baby but I don't want him to leave me".
On any level, serious or simple, can you see how the heart and mind always combat each other?
One way or the other there has to be a loser, right? WRONG!
There is only one way to stop the heart and mind (which are brother and sister) from fighting.
Picture this:
There are two siblings (brother and sister) having a fight in the middle of the street on their way home from school. 
The cars honking does not stop them. 
The friends saying, "Don't fight your brother" or "Don't fight your sister" does not stop them either. 
Neither does the sound a vicious dog barking at all the noise stop them BUT then there's a deep voice that simply says, "STOP FIGHTING" and immediately the kids cut it out. 
To their surprise, it's good ole' Dad and they know he means business. They never say a word to Dad nor each other nor the people surrounding them. 
They automatically stop fighting and silently get in the car because they understand that he is in charge.
This is the same thing that happens when you talk with your Heavenly Father about what to do. 
Go ahead and tell Him the brain's side and the heart's side. He's not surprised by what you feel or think because He already knows, so be honest with Him. 
Ask Him who should you side with in order to remain comfortable with the decision made.
You see, when God is included in your decision, there's no way you can make the wrong choice. The way to know for sure that you're following God's instructions is that His instructions always line up with love and life...never hatred, death, malice, envy, jealousy, spite, etc. 
Even if you don't understand why you have to go the way you're going, you can rest assured that it's the right thing to do AND you can rest assured that you'll never have to take this same route again because God told you what to do and that settles the issue. 
There may be tears because of your choice, there may be anxiety because of your choice, your choice may cause frustration, and maybe even cause loved ones to ...well..not act so lovely toward you BUT YOU WILL HAVE PEACE because you trusted the ONE who wrote the plan for your life, the ONE who has the whole Heavens and Earth in His hand, the ONLY ONE WHO CAN SETTLE A DISPUTE BETWEEN THE HEART AND MIND.
Be at peace and trust in the Lord with all of your heart. Don't just take matters into your own hands but in everything you do, talk to God, and He will direct your path. 

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